BLOGOne New Dad's Reflection on Raising a Daughter in the Wake of New Bathroom Privacy Laws

By Charles Snow Posted on: | May 23, 2016

When my wife and I found out that our first child is a girl, our thoughts suddenly changed. No longer were we abstractly contemplating the experiences and potential hardships of raising a person; instead, the knowledge of her biological sex caused us to focus on the specific joys and fears that accompany raising a woman. As a first-time father, I immediately began to consider how I would love and protect my daughter well.

I had anticipated raising my daughter in a world in which we are often tethered to our phones rather than each other and where “virtues” held highly by Western society are not consistent with a Christian worldview, but I had not envisioned preparing to teach her so intentionally the differences between men and women. I had (wrongly) assumed that her mother and I would of course teach her these things, but that they would be further enshrined within her by societal norms. Most shockingly, what I had not anticipated is that I would fear for her safety each time she enters a public restroom, even now while she is in the womb, because new laws and policies allow men into women’s restrooms and locker rooms.

The tides of culture (from which law often flows downstream) that we live amidst are troubling, to say the least. Our society continues to move further away from a long-standing, common sense reality to a pseudo-reality in which immutable biological sexes are forsaken in the name of perceived gender identity and inclusion. When we do this, we risk undermining what natural law reveals to us about ourselves. As Adam Carrington argues at The Public Discourse, “…conventions [such as bathroom privacy policies] rightly made and practiced, bear a beneficial relationship to nature, reinforcing the natural moral standards in society.” Contrary to what Attorney General Loretta Lynch implies, policies that respect the privacy of women and children in public accommodations are not based on “a distinction without a difference.” Rather, they are rooted in what makes us male and female—precisely, a distinction with a difference.

The privacy and safety of such a large group of people (women and children) are needlessly risked. It is estimated that nearly one in eight high school girls have been sexually assaulted, and that percentage rises to one in five when surveying all women. Why would we enact policies, which so clearly push a political agenda, that could raise these numbers even higher? 

We must not stand by in silence while the privacy of millions of individuals is being stripped away, exposing them to psychological and emotional trauma, simply because we are afraid of being labeled a bigot or intolerant.

As mothers and fathers, sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, teachers and students, bosses and employees, we should seek the common good, safety, and privacy of all, not bowing to pressure that would seek to compromise the privacy and safety of those most vulnerable in society. And as my daughter is born and ages, she should be able to expect her right to privacy to be respected each time she enters a public restroom, locker room, or changing facility. And so should yours.

 

Help Keep Women and Children Safe
Policies permitting access to restrooms, locker rooms, and changing rooms based on a person’s gender identity, rather than their biological sex, are being enacted across the country. If you agree that we must do everything we can to protect the privacy and safety of women and children, sign the statement today.

Charles Snow

Contributing Writer

Charles is a Tennessee native and lover of books and basketball.

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